Widowhood in Nepal

by Bahini Educare Foundation
Widowhood in Nepal

Single mother:   (Name WithHeld) Aged 31

Beneficiaries:      (Name WithHeld), Aged 11 (Daughter)

                             (Name WithHeld), Aged 8 (Daughter)                                                

Family Details :

(Name WithHeld) was born in a small village called Lahachowk, situated on the foothills of the Himalayas in the vicinity of Pokhara. Her parents owned a small farm and some livestock, enough for the family of six to live a simple village life, like the majority of the people who live in rural Nepal. When (Name WithHeld) was three years old, her legs were badly burnt while she was sleeping nearby an open fire in the house. These accidents are frequent in Nepal because many villagers are still cooking on open wood-fires.

This is one of the reasons why “BEF” is providing “Improved-Cooking-Stoves” to our beneficiaries and this wherever possible. (Please see: “Improved-Cooking-Stove” on our website: www.bahinifoundation.org)

(Name WithHeld) attended school for a couple of years only, because she had to help with the daily chores from early age on.

When she was 19 years old, her parents arranged a marriage with a man from a neighboring village who was laboring on construction sites. A daily wage earner, he used to get drunk after the wages were paid out. Sadly, this is a frequent habit among many of the working-class males.

After the first daughter (Name WithHeld) was born the man’s bad temper worsened, he became violent and he started to beat his wife frequently.

After the birth of the second daughter (Name WithHeld), the husband frustrated by the fact that his wife didn’t deliver a male heir, turned increasingly violent and frequently brutalized his defenseless wife.

When he extended his abusiveness towards his daughters and the Mother was no longer able to protect them, she fled her home together with her two daughters aged 7 & 3, with nothing more than the clothes they were wearing and a few items they were able to carry. At the time (Name WithHeld) was 25 years old.

Husbands leaving their families or terrorizing them when only females are born is a sad reality and “BEF” is frequently confronted with these worst forms of gender discrimination and violence.

(Name WithHeld) found a small room in Pokhara and she went to work on construction sites, carrying heavy loads of bricks and mortar.

Due to the deep scars in her legs from her burning accident as a child (Name WithHeld) was always in pain. One day the hard labor provoked a uterus prolapse, a disease that many working-class women in Nepal have to cope with. Things turned from bad to worse since she was no longer able to carry heavy loads for many hours a day and she ended up begging for food in the streets of Pokhara.

(Name WithHeld) came to know about “BEF” and she recently applied for support.

Given the dire circumstances and the imminent danger that this family of three is facing we decided to take this family under our umbrella without any delay!

The yearly expenses to provide and care for this family of three amounts to approximately € 1200,-. This is including the treatment of the uterus prolapse and other health problems. Our board member Dr. Shuvechchha , a gynecologist will organize the referral to a Clinic that is specialized for an adequate treatment for this particular issue.

We do not have the funds required to take new families on board, but we are determined to extend our help to more such families that are in dire need of help and we are confident that our growing donor-community will approve and support our decisions and our actions!

From now (Name WithHeld) and her two daughters are under “BEF’s” protection and they live a life in safety and dignity; for them our/your support is making all the difference!

It’s simple, it’s “simply BEF”!

 

Sincerely yours

Surendra and the TEAM

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Dear friends, partners & benefactors,

The past year has been extremely challenging one, for Nepal and the whole world, for all of us but foremost for the poorest and the most underprivileged in Nepal and worldwide.

We lived up to the challenge and we stood by the side of the most poverty-stricken children and mothers in our district; helping them to survive, preventing food-insecurity and providing them with their basic needs including warm sleeping bags for the freezing winter-nights.

For all those we were able to help it made all the difference and for us it made all the difference to be able to help them.

We didn´t have to look away, saying we wish we could help in the face of so much suffering and despair. We took action and all of you who are receiving this mail are part of our actions!

Let us all rejoice in the fact that we are able to support many of the neediest in these difficult times and let us start the new year with the determination to help many more!

Thank you all for your compassion and your generosity!

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all of you!

Surendra, Raymond & the TEAM

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Women in traditional Hindu culture marry in to their husbands’ families and live in their husbands’ multigenerational homes. This set up provides security as long as a woman stays within it. But if a husband is dying young the wife will be blamed for the untimely demise of her husband, she will be ostracized and she will remain stigmatized for the rest of her life. On top of this if she was “unfortunate” and gave birth to daughters only and a male inheritor is absent her faith might well turn from bad to worse.

Her husband’s family might refuse to care for them. The widow will be treated as a slave and the daughters are not cared for, neglected, malnourished and they are forgoing school. In many such cases the widow and her daughters have to leave the house and they are left without any property, assets or money.

Without any support or any safety-net, these widows and their daughters are the most vulnerable and at risk of all the poor people in Nepal and at high risk of worst forms of abuse, exploitation and discrimination!

SUICIDE: A statistic by the WHO is stating that the suicide rate of women in Nepal is among the highest worldwide and they came to the shocking finding that suicide is the leading cause of death for women aged 15-49. Statistics are flawed because suicide is illegal in Nepal and relatives will not disclose the real cause of death to avoid legal problems and the social stigma associated with it.

For women in particular, the under reporting of suicides and suicide-attempts may be caused in part by a “culture of silence”, especially in cases related to domestic abuse.

Given the fact that many young widows find themselves in desperate situation and that they live in constant anguish, there is evidence that the suicide rate of young widows is alarmingly high!

 

OUR IMPACT:

Currently we are caring for 26 such widows with dependent children and our support is vital for them. We are providing for their basic needs such as staple food, clothing, blankets, all that’s required for a proper hygiene as well as medical and educational support, counseling and guidance.

Due to the pandemic and the collapse of the economy many more are in desperate need of our help. Too many of them lost HOPE. In the worst storms hope is the flickering candle that we must not allow to be extinguished.

Let us HELP, let us give these widows and their children HOPE again!

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Dear Friends & benefactors,
Namaste!

 Bahini Educare has been established with the main objective of PREVENTION of the worst forms of abuse, violence and discrimination of girls and women!

This is including prevention of trafficking, rape and forced prostitution. Our target groups are destitute single mothers with dependent daughters; the most vulnerable group with regard to the above listed crimes.

We are preventing these crimes by addressing food-insecurity and the provision of the most basic needs for them to live a life in dignity and safety.

One such story follows a mother with 2 daughters and 1 son. The father of this family had two wives. When his first wife didn’t have any children he married her younger sister. She gave birth to two daughters and a son.

When the husband, the only bread earner, died the family was in a miserable condition. When Durga was diagnosed with breast cancer, things turned from bad to worse! The local ward community referred this family to BEF and we supported this family since August 2018.

Recent Updates:

The family has shown remarkable progress in terms of health, education and livelihood. The eldest daughter is currently studying in Grade XI and helping her family. Durga has recovered from her cancer and currently the whole family is well and all are inspired and actively involved in improving their livelihood.

Due to the pandemic and the collapse of the economy many more are in desperate need of our help.

We are only determined and commited to help many more. Plese HELP!

Thank you for your generous donations..

 

with kindest regards,

Surendra & TEAM
Bahini Educare Foundation

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Dear Friends and benefactors,
Namaste!

Project: Widowhood in Nepal by the “Bahini-Educare-Foundation-Nepal”

At first we would like to express our gratitude for your generous donations for the support to the most underprivileged and discriminated in Nepal; namely the widows and the single mothers.

It is our main objective to support these target groups and currently we are caring for 25 families that are headed by widows’ respectively single mothers.

In Nepal millions more fell into poverty last year because of the pandemic-induced economic recession. Poor people are living on 2$ or less daily. Our target groups are day laborers and they live literally from the hand to the mouth. No work is synonymous to no food!

Widows and single mothers find themselves on the lowest rung of the social leader and this without any support or safety net.

Suicide is the most frequent cause of death among these women and this is a sad and shocking reality in today’s Nepal!

Since the year 2014, when the “Bahini-Educare-Foundation” was first established we supported hundreds of these desperate women and their children; we provide them with their basic needs, like staple food, clothes, medicine, hygienic items and education for the children.

 

Recent-Interaction-Program:

On the occasion of International Women’s’ Day (8th March 2021) the “ Bahini Educare Foundation” in association with “Amnesty International” and “Annapurna Rural Municipality” organized an “Legal-Awareness & Interaction Program” for women.

This program attracted almost 100 participants, the majority of them widows. Some influential members from our community were participating in the program, underscoring the importance and the appreciation by the community for our actions.

 The program was conducted by a female lawyer, a sociologist and social worker and the participants took keen interest regarding their rights and their status in society.

For most of them, the majority of them are illiterate, this was the first time they came to know about their basic human rights.

Despite an improvement in legal provisions the implementations of the laws regarding human-rights are lacking behind in a society where widows and single women have always been subject to worst forms of oppression, abuse and discrimination.

It is our declared aim to support these women, and this not only in providing for their basic needs, but we also to commit to empowerment and confidence-building, and this for them and their children to live a life free of oppression and utter poverty.

Education, empowerment, confidence building and awareness are the means to break the centuries old vicious cycle of poverty, abuse and discrimination that these women have been facing for too many generations!

Thank you for your support and be assured that we, as a small grassroots-organisation are constantly thriving to optimize our effort in supporting and empowering our target-groups.

Sincerely yours
TEAM Bahini Educare Foundation

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Bahini Educare Foundation

Location: Pokhara - Nepal
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Project Leader:
Surendra Pariyar
Pokhara, Nepal
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