Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum

by Friends Women's Association
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Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum
Providing health care to 1000s in Bujumbura slum

My name is Anniella. I am 28 years old. I have 3 children. The first is 2 years 6 months old. The second is 1 year 6 months old and the last is 3 months old. My husband abandoned me for no reason after 2 weeks of giving birth to the 2nd child. Because of these close pregnancies, I lost my job in one of the companies in Bujumbura because with prenatal leave and work without a contract, I could not honor my specifications. When I learned that there are Self-Help Groups at Ntaseka clinic, I joined one of them. I participated in a workshop on Family Planning when my second child was 9 months old. I refused to join contraceptive methods because of three reasons: the first was that I was not with my husband. The second was that my religious beliefs did not allow adherence to family planning. The third was the side effects of contraceptives. Suddenly I received a visit from my husband who immediately impregnated me with a third child and continued on his way as usual. My husband is now out of my discussions. I decided not to continue living the ordeal. I am currently on family planning. I preferred the long-acting 5-year method and vow not to have another child if nothing changes.

 

I was born in a Christian family with a strict education. I grew up ignoring the wickedness of men. I was a church lady. I never knew the man sexually, I even didn’t understand a girl who can have sex before marriage; I did not even believe that it exists.

I married an HIV-positive man without knowing it, but He knew it. I got this bad news when I was pregnant. My heart was shattered into a thousand pieces; I felt the pain I had never felt before. It took me time to accept that my husband who is a practicing Christianity could do such a thing to me. With time, I found who really my husband is; a man who loves many women, who sleeps in hotels with other women, irresponsible man, angry man who beats me, and a man who is different than who I dreamed for. I fell into endless mourning in these 8 years. Sometimes I ask God why I harvested a life like life of a sex worker while I abstained for the glory of God.

I mourn my youth sometimes it's hard to leave the house I stay in my room because I think everyone knows that I’m HIV positive. I cry for my children because I'm going to die soon, who will raise my children? I no longer have strength to live.  I sometimes desire death. This workshop has been meaningful to me. I feel I’m also human. Thanks a lot to the FWA

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“My name is Claire, this program has been very beneficial to me and family. My husband is alcoholic, every day he comes home drunk. I have suffered many forms of gender-based violence.

Before coming to this training I was a woman who stays at home every day, I was ashamed to go among the others because in the neighborhood everyone knew my situation and they were pointing finger at me calling me MARUSHWA {sorrow); that made my pain worse because it was easy to support my husband but knowing that everyone knows my situation has become unbearable for me.

I thank FWA with all my heart because if FWA didn't exist I don't know where I would be now. FWA healed me; normal stress and traumatic stress were explained to us and I understood that if I do nothing in my life I will die sooner. I also understood in “the web of healing” that if I manage to be healed my children will also be spared from trauma.

At the end of the training I joined the savings group and I applied for a loan and started working. Until now I was able to save 37,000FBU for me it is like million because I had never had such amount of money without asking my husband or my family.

This program has increased my self-esteem. I felt capable and saw that it is possible to take care of my children financially without begging money.

At the start of the school year, I was able to buy everything I needed for my three children. I am the leader of my saving group. I was able to pay food for my family including my husband; I have stopped counting on my husband. I take him as he does not exist; this gave me peace in my heart.  When I look at myself I'm proud and I have so many plans for the future”.

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“My name is Saidatte, I suffered too much in my marriage and I decided to leave my husband after 17 years. Before coming to the training I was so much traumatized and I did not know it. I was able to understand that the violence I suffered had great consequences in my life: I became an irresponsible woman. Alcohol was my best friend; I was even a street beggar. I started to sell cooked corn. But I could not prepare them because of the alcohol.

I thank the one who invited me because after training I was able to change because she remained close to me advising me. Now, you also see that I am a woman like others ; I laugh, I wash my clothes I do a small business which makes us live me and my children. In my head I feel peace and I am among the other women in the savings group. Being with others helps me a lot because I feel like I have value too”.

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“My name is Claire, this program has been very beneficial to me and family. My husband is alcoholic, every day he comes home drunk. I have suffered many forms of gender-based violence.

Before coming to this training I was a woman who stays at home every day, I was ashamed to go among the others because in the neighborhood everyone knew my situation and they were pointing finger at me calling me MARUSHWA {sorrow); that made my pain worse because it was easy to support my husband but knowing that everyone knows my situation has become unbearable for me.

I thank FWA with all my heart because if FWA didn't exist I don't know where I would be now. FWA healed me; normal stress and traumatic stress were explained to us and I understood that if I do nothing in my life I will die sooner. I also understood in “the web of healing” that if I manage to be healed my children will also be spared from trauma.

At the end of the training I joined the savings group and I applied for a loan and started working. Until now I was able to save 37,000FBU for me it is like million because I had never had such amount of money without asking my husband or my family.

This program has increased my self-esteem. I felt capable and saw that it is possible to take care of my children financially without begging money.

At the start of the school year, I was able to buy everything I needed for my three children. I am the leader of my saving group. I was able to pay food for my family including my husband; I have stopped counting on my husband. I take him as he does not exist; this gave me peace in my heart.  When I look at myself I'm proud and I have so many plans for the future”.

“My name is Hillarie, what changed my life in this program was “listening”. I was a quarrelsome woman because of my husband who mistreated me. We came to training with my friend and we decided to work together for our healing. Before training when my husband was talking, I used to talk too defending myself and then he beat me because He didn't want me to talk.

Now, if my husband hurts me I run directly to my friend to unload myself and I feel good afterwards. I have learned to talk to my husband peacefully. I told to him what we learned in the training and he listened to me. He has not changed completely but there is something that has changed”.

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“I am an orphan, I have only one brother who had refused me to marry my husband but I was so in love that nothing could stop me. He married me poor but after a while he got rich, what triggered the hatred against me; I have twice given birth to children who died. He and his family told me that I am a witch that I did not even have pity on my own children. He built a big house but he refused that I live in it; he rented a two-bedroom house; his room and my room. He told me that there will be no more sex between him and me. One day he burned his clothes despite their value because I washed them. He was such a  kind of man who comes home; you say welcome and he beats you. He called me all bad words, he beat me to see that I can leave him but the aunts told me to persevere.  I think also that the separation is to be looser. I had a pregnancy. Indeed, despite her decision not to have sex with me; there were times that he came into my room. On the day of my birth he did not want to go with me to the hospital. I gave birth to a boy; when he heard that he is a boy, he came to see me with a lot of things for the baby and I was came back home in his car. After a month, he took everything that we had in the house, he beat me a lot. He told me to leave him to marry another woman because when I am on this village according to him no girl can accept him. The local leaders came to intervene but he told them that he did not want me again.

I came to Bujumbura with my child.  I try to survive by myself with a small business. My husband returned home poor 3 years after marrying four women but the past week he kicked me out I left my children. He uses to lock my child the whole day in the house without eating anything. This hurts me in my heart even more than anything.”

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NTAHUBA PARFAITE
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